Yep, we’ve got one of those. Didn’t you know?
We hang around in long gowns, sipping Lillets while our Chefs prepare elaborate dinners. We entertain almost every night. Our Kitchen’s the place to be. SAID NO CHEF WIFE EVER!
We have this secret society. Some of us are lucky enough to stumble upon blog posts and if we’re truly lucky, some of us find support groups. HAHA!! No offense to AA, but it’s similar to that, except we simply GAB a lot through postings. I happen to be a part of that group. Needless to say, sometimes I feel like I don’t belong there but that’s another post. This is about the support it gives.
You see, contrary to popular beliefs, we do not often eat with our Chefs (since they have weird long hours). They do not always cook for us (since they work long weird hours and too tired on their day off). We do not host these amazing dinner parties (again, our Chefs are rarely around). Valentine’s Day suck for us. Thanksgiving and Christmas requires scheduling etc..
Can you even imagine writing about your smallest pet peeve, only to realize that it is shared by other Chef Wives (girlfriends, significant others) AROUND THE WORLD. It is so enlightening. Even though it doesn’t actually help you solve your issue, it takes a load of the “I’m not Crazy” crap off your shoulder.
My Chef and I have been at it for a while. He is pretty much my Gordon Ramsey. While I’m sure Mr Ramsey is a sweetheart off camera, I vouch for his TV persona. Being a Chef is a lot of pressure and requires a thick skin (yeah, show me a Chef who hasn’t burnt/cut him/her self).
Any given day, I feel like my Chef will put my head between two slices of bread and have me repeat “I’m an idiot sandwich: LMAO!! on the flip side, on any given day, I dream of taking the cast iron skillet and hitting him over the head.. We’re SO IN LOVE!!
So my SUPPORT GROUP helps me laugh. I don’t often share the craziness because like I’ve mentioned Chef and I work together. MUCH MUCH different to having another life while being married to a chef. I can dish it as best as he can.
I understand that my situation is not unique. It is definitely a Culture in the Food Industry.. Some couples make it; some don’t. Having some support to talk it through definitely makes life bearable